Thursday, August 17th 2023, 5:30 pm
Police are investigating what led to the tragic murders of a metro family.
Police said Ruben Armendariz, 28, shot and killed his three children, estranged wife and himself.
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Family and friends told News 9 on Thursday the married couple was separated. A relative said Cassandra Flores, 29, and her three children lived with her father. They said he made the horrific discovery late Wednesday night and called police.
“I just had to come by and see the house because it doesn’t seem real,” said family friend Jennifer Johnson.
A home Johnson had fond memories of, until now. She grew up in northwest Oklahoma City. Johnson said Flores and Armendariz met as teenagers.
“They’ve been together since she was like 17,” Johnson said. “They’ve been together for a long time.”
The couple had three children together ages nine, five and two-year-old.
“Hillary, she was the 9-year-old,” Johnson said. “So smart and just really mature for her age.”
Johnson could not believe she will never see the family again. Police were called to the home near Northwest 5th Terrace and Greenvale Road late Wednesday night.
“When they arrived, they came across a family member that lives at the address,” Captain Valerie Littlejohn with the Oklahoma City Police Department said. “That family member reported when he arrived. He did locate several of his family members deceased at the home.”
Police said Armendariz shot and killed Flores and their three children inside the home. He then turned the gun on himself in the front yard.
“It’s just not real,” Johnson said. “I never expected that of Ruben at all. Like he was so quiet.”
She knew the couple was having problems but never thought it would end tragically.
“She said that he was bothering her a lot and was more worried about her than the kids,” Johnson said. “He was really depressed.”
The family has started a GoFundMe to raise money for the burials of Flores and her children.
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